HI internet forums have helped me in the pass on other issues. So hoping these will be just as good.  My partner has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. We are in the early stages  (I think). We had the first oncology meeting yesterday and was told that whilst there is no chance of remission, there are treatments that could/should prolong his life by years. How many who knows. He has surgery in 2016 which removed the whole of his left kidney and 2/3rds  of his right kidney. Acute pain four months ago prompted a CT scan which has shown his kidney cancer has spread to his liver and less so on his lungs. When he first heard the news it had spread past its origin he automatically thought the worse case scenario and gave himself 12-18 months. So yesterday when the consultants said they were pretty confident the treatment they would be giving him would most ikely give him 3 -4 years (approx no guarantees) he seemed to be happyish with that.  That time frame gives him at east aa chance to do what he needs to. "his words"

My main worry is that this isnt good enough for him, his talk of suicide worries me greatly. He is usually a very optimistic person, and yet the last week or so killing hiself before trying treatment or waitng for a full prognosis has been the main topic of conversation. 

He has lots of friends, but he wont go see them or engage anyway. The only person he talks to is me and thats because we live together. 

Think thats enough of a an introduction.

dumbelle