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Secondary breast cancer, bone cancer, spread to liver

Harry996
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Around 7 months ago my mum got told she has secondary breast cancer and it has spread to her bones. 

It is a hormone cancer and she has been taking drugs to stop the body producing the hormone and also a new chemo treatment tablet to stop the cancer from spreading. 

The cancer was a stage 2, I now think it's got worse.

This however has not worked and today got told that they are stopping treatment whilst they look at doing a different treatment.

Cancer has now spread to her liver.

Through this whole situation I haven't felt upset, I don't think I've actually accepted or can take any of this in. 

I'm now worried for my mum and I want to know some truths so I can start processing it all.

How long is the life expectancy of someone with my mum's condition?

I haven't opened up to any of my friends, work colleges. Only girlfriend knows and she's the only one I can really talk to. Sometimes I feel upset and often angry around all this.

If anyone has any answers or is dealing with anything similar I'd like to hear from you. Thanks 

 

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    Hi... I'm kinda in the same boat although I was very upset when I found about about my mum but now 2 months later my mind has seemed to shut off from the hole thing and I fill I'm kinda in denial.... my mum was diagnosed finally in october where like your mum she started the hormone treatment only she had a scan in January to find out it was having no effect and was still spreading... my mum has stage 4 breast cancer and its already spread to her bones like your mum, my mum is at risk of it spreading further to her liver lungs or brain there is no answers!!!... after finding out the hormone treatment wasnt working my mum has now started chemo paclitaxel iv been told theres 100s of chemotherapy options out there so your mums consultant should b able come up with the best option... unfortunately I'm left with the same question I have no idea on life expectancy iv googled and searched many sites and seen no longer than 5 years for breast cancer that's metalized I'm not sure on this and unsure who I can turn to to kno the full truth. Hope some of this helps.

     

  • Offline in reply to emmalb

    Hi both of you, Only your mums' doctors can answer questions like this, because every individual cancer is different. 

    If your mums agree in advance, you can ask their doctors any questions you want. Your mums may not want this, of course. Or they may not want to know themselves, but have no objection to you knowing.

    Really tough times for both of you, I wish you the very best. 

  • Offline in reply to Harry2

    Hi im sorry iv just seen your reply but sadly I'm in the same boat as before worse now because I cant b there at appointments... i kno I should speak to my mums doctor and jj her mcmillian nurse is amazing but I get anxiety like im wasting there time asking these questions when they have so much to deal with... my mums chemo has stopped for 2 months but it was the only chemo working its been a nightmare since march im confused and I kno im hiding how bad im suffering but sometimes if I get upset my mum gets upset and thinks its all her fault so I hide alot... i don't think there's enough out there for people and mayb this is selfish of me but im so angry that its 2020 and there's no cure for this horrible disease. I just want to find someone whos been thru what im going thru I cant deal with anything else I still don't understand how its happened there was no warning signs and all off a sudden we r told its beast cancer its spread to her bones and already stage 4 my mum is my one and only friend I just fill so so alone

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