Hi…this is my first post although I’ve been reading things for a week or two. Sorry if it’s a bit rambling but I am in total shock.
Basically mid-December my husband started to feel a bit unwell…he had had a mini stroke around 10 years ago and we were worried he’d had another. Dr did some tests but decided he needed a brain scan to see exactly what was going on. He had that on 30th December and on 6th Jan she called us in to share the devastating news that the scan showed numerous secondary brain cancers. He went for a body scan to see if they could identify the primary and today we saw the oncologist. It seems he has cancer pretty much everywhere….lungs, liver, spine, bones and brain. The consultant was lovely…she asked if he wanted her to be honest and when he said definitely…that’s exactly what she was! It is apparently very fast growing…so there is nothing that can be done other than palliative care. She did seem to indicate that even saying ‘weeks’ was optimistic! There is, it would seem, a chance that as this is weakening his entire body that he may well have a heart attack…and I hope you don’t think me unfeeling when I say that I feel that would be a kindness.
Our GP called this afternoon and has cleared an hour or so for us tomorrow morning so we can discuss exactly how she can help…and what other help is available for us. My husband has said he wants to die here at home…and that is what will happen.
Right now he’s sleeping but that doesn’t seem to be an option for me…so many things are going round in my head. I just can’t begin to imagine how I will cope…can’t contemplate his not being here.
