Hi Cath-mogs,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear about your mum's health problems. I went through this with my own mum 21 years ago. She had breast cancer for 12 years before it spread to other parts of her body (bone, brain, liver and lungs). I now have breast cancer myself and have had 2 bouts in the past 10 years.

It is hard when you are expected to be the spokesperson for the family. this responsibility fell to me for the same reason. Working in the health service is one thing, but having to care for a loved one in it is quite a different matter.

Try not to worry about the what if's. You will soon have a definite diagnosis and can start to move forward. Once you know these details, you will find it all much easier to deal with. Do you live far away from your mum? Try to be with her as much as you can, accompany her to appointments, especially when she is due to get any test results. Be there for her and try to make memories while you can.

I know that this is a very anxious time, but try to put a positive slant on things. This will help your mum more than anything else. I hope that you don't have much longer to wait for that biopsy. There is usually another wait of 1-2 weeks to get the biopsy results.

I know just how hard this can be and am thinking of you both and praying for good results when you do get seen.

Please stay in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx