I guess we are one of the lucky ones.
H was diagnosed with a particularly aggressive mouth cancer on my birthday 4 weeks ago. In that time it has bread to the glands in his neck and we have spent every day in one or other local hosptials undergoing tests scans biopsies etc - I don't need to tell you guys. He had surgery on Monday to remove his tongue, some teeth, base of his mouth, glands in his neck and reconstructive surgery using skin veins and muscle from his arm.
He's on the road to recovery albeit a much reduced version of himself unable to speak or eat right now, in ICU with many tubes and a tracheostomy - but alive.
My partner is obviously very distressed at his loss of abilities and functions - I love he is still with me but how do I deal with what he feels is his lesser person?
