Hi Sandra123. Good to hear of people getting through it all so well. Sounds like you were lucky with the routine screening. Hoping mine will be over quickly too. Once.I get my MRI I will get the full treatment plan.

Thanks for the advice xx

Hi Glasgowgal i was diagnosed end of march with oestrogen positive breast cancer stage 2b but grade 1 im also 45 with 3 kids im due to get married on valentines day so we have similar story i was told my lump was tiny but turned out to be 30mm with a smaller tumour also found i had 3 lumpectomys to try get clear margins but eventually had mastectomy end of july with reconstruction i didnt need chemo as i had onco dx test done and it came back with a score of 14 i think anything under 18 they say chemo be of no benefit im on tamoxifen now and ive also my pre op soon as im having hysterectomy ive an ovarian cyst and because a family history of both breast and ovarian cancer thats why im havin that done i didnt find the recovery to bad from any of my ops i was more tired but id say having 4 general anaesthetic in 3 months and just knowing i had cancer proberly contributed to that but soon as u have your plan in place things move quite quickly and u start to feel more in control of things good luck and keep us posted on how you get on xx

Hi Mitten 74,

That sounds so awful, like you have really been through a hard time. You must be absolutely wiped  out with all that and then to add a hysterectomy on top!! I feel bad for even been worried now!!!

Are you  hoping to be ok for your wedding in February? I have told people my wedding will more than likely be delayed until later in the year. Just think time frame is too tight and my head will be elsewhere, buy as you say once I get my MRI and have a definate plan I may feel more in control.

Can I ask how your kids are? Did you tell them? I haven"t told mine yet but they will know something is wrong when I am off work and going to appointments, although hoping to work as much as I can.

How do you feel on tamoxifen?. I have seem some horrible side effects on Dr Google...... I know I shouldn't look but cant help myself!!

Sending you lots of hugs xx

Hi glasgowgal you dont have to feel bad for being worried when we are told you have cancer it pulls the rug from under us i was really wiped out during summer but not so much now my kids are older than yours ( but there always our babies no matter what there age ) ive a son whos 20 and 2 daughter's 18 and 14 my older kids know there be no way i could hide it from them and there old enough to understand i told my youngest i was having preventative surgey because shes a worrier and i was only going to tell her if i had chemo but i didnt need chemo after i had my onco test are you getting an onco dx test done it tells you if you will benefit from chemo or not and if your cancer has a low or high risk of recurrence as for my wedding yeah its still going ahead and your right my head doesnt really be into at times but my kids are really looking forward to it and so is my partner hes been great so im just going to go ahead my kids had enough upset this year so if the wedding is something that brings some happy times im going ahead i prob would have put it off if i had of needed chemo and i started my tamoxifen in august so far so good small bit of joint pain in my knees especially at night my mood still does be bit up and down but you just get up and keep going i found this forum great id read old posts from people and the replies from certain people on it would always put a spring back in my step espec a woman called chrissie i think one of her replies was stop the what ifs its nothing until it is so i remember that when i get a weird ache or pain and start jumping to conclusions that its back or spread u can add me as a friend if you want and il try answer any questions you have sending u a big hug

Thanks for being so kind, everyone is so nice on here and its good to hear about other peoples experiences.

Not sure about onco test. Its not been mentioned yet. Will know more after MRI results. I will see if I tell the kids. Everything just feels up in the air until I have the treatment plan. Good for you going ahead with the wedding and you are right the kids would be devasted if you cancel. You are one strong lady.

Thanks for the support xx