Struggling to cope!

i have recently split from my wife and have found a lump, I have been to the docs and am waiting for a scan to find out what’s what. My wife knows about it and has said she will come with me to the appointment but just lately we have been arguing and I am worried she won’t come with me, my biggest worry though is that my step kids still live with me and I am drinking quite a bit and am quite emotional at random times, I haven’t told them as I don’t want to worry them, they are 14 and 16, I am now thinking that I need to tell them so I can have someone to talk to but really don’t want to worry them as they are going through enough just now as it is with the split from their mum, feeling very lost and lonely at the moment 

  • You have done the right thing for joining a forum for support. Is there a friend you can talk to? Lumps can be many things so as stressful as it is... Try to wait till you know 100% what youre dealing with... 

  • Thankyou for replying, and I thought I could talk to my wife about it, we were recently on holiday as a family although we all knew we were splitting when we got home, we went to make sure the kids had a great holiday and we all got on great and said all along that we will stay best friends but as I said and as I probably knew things were always going to change when we got home and we have been arguing a bit since, I found the lump whilst on holiday which made it worse because all I could think was that I am just looking for sympathy but she was great about it, she booked an appointment with the docs and made sure I went, I am just worried that the kids are going to fall out with me because of my behaviour and I know they they understand but really don’t want to worry them, so confused and lost