New, I have de Novo metastatic cancer

Hello,

I am waiting for diagnosis hopefully this week to know if it's breast cancer or else. What I do know is that scans couldn't find a large lump but plenty metastases in my lungs, liver, spleen and bones.

 

The doctors and nurses are very friendly but I can't help but getting the vibe that whatever the primary cancer is, there isn't much medicine can do. Don't get me wrong, the pain relief is invaluable. But I understand that my life expectancy is low simply because of the number of organs affected.

 

I am 44 and a dedicated mum to a 10 yrs old girl and an 8 yrs old boy. I am tormented by the thought that I won't be there to help them through the pain of losing their precious mum.

 

I hope to find a reason to believe in miracles on this site. Xx

 

  • Hi sabrina there are others, not quite same as you but fighting for every day there's [@Shellbell10]‍, and our favourite professor [@marj58]‍, hopefully they pop over sometime warning marj sleeps a lot so you never know when, also when she starts writing she doesn't know when to stop, just so you're up to date, have a good look around you could find others. Best wishes.. Billy

    P.s I've prostate cancer which has gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung diagnosed Feb 2016, non curable i just live with it an uninvited guest, hue won't leave. 

  • Hi Sabina, welcome to the forum. Sorry you have had to come on here though.

    I have sbc with bone, liver, omental and maybe lung mets. I've just started paclitaxel only had one up to now get another on Friday. They've told me this is my last option. TBH I'm getting a bit fed up, feel like they're fobbing me off all the time. Got some questions for my onc next time I see her. 

    I understand how you feel, I'm 47 and have a boy 21 and a girl 17. Older than yours but they are always your babies no matter how old they are. That's the worst for me having to leave them behind. My husband is amazing though, he really looks after me. Have you been referred to Macmillan, there amazing, help you with everything. Sorry if I haven't cheered you up, but I just say it as it is. Hope you find something to focus on, take your mind off the C word for a bit. If you ever need to chat I'm here, or you can pm me. Take care Hun and good luck with everything. Lots of love Shelly.xxx