Terminal Cancer

I’m 23. A good number of people in my family had had cancer, my gran died 4 years ago and now my auntie has terminal cancer. It started of as vulva but it is now in her lung, she is getting radio therapy and chemo beginning of next month, depending on how fast her cancer is growing because it is aggressive they may stop. I am finding it very hard to see everyone in my family break down. It’s my mums sister and she’s very distraught. She’s only 47 my gran and grandad are heartbroken as is her 3 children youngest being only 14. We go around nearly every night and yesterday she was bad. She was talking to my mum and she got her DNR form. ( do not resuscitate) as she said she is in way too much pain and dosent want brought back if she goes. I just don’t get why this is happening to her. She’s an amazing woman and dosent deserve it. I am struggling with my mental health as it is and find this is topping it off x

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    Hi Sunshine and, a very warm welcome to the forum,

    I am so sorry to hear that your family has been blighted by this awful disease too. I have also lost a large number of relations and close friends to it and, I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer myself in the past 10 years. Sadly, this is a disease which doesn't only affect patients. It also impinges on their family and friends.

    It is so sad to see someone as young as your aunt afflicted by this and must be particularly upsetting for her 14 year old.

    I can fully understand her wish to sign the DNR form, as its no fun at the end. Perhaps you could help her 14 year old to get through this? You often cope better when you are helping others, instead of just concentrating directly on what is happening.

    Do you think that it might help you to talk to a counsellor about your feelings?

    Do please stay in touch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx