Just been diagnosed, BC - triple negative

Hi there,

I joined the group a couple of weeks ago after my scan and biopsy and found it useful and supportive reading what everyone is going through and their advice whilst we all face the C word!

I've now received my diagnosis and plucked up the courage to say 'HI!' :)  I'm still reading up on all the booklets i've received. A strange feeling really counting the days down to your appointment like a holiday without the excited feeling and now coming home with loads of booklets and not holiday brochures.  i feel strange that i have a sense of relief but a strange relief as I do have cancer and not the all clear.  Does anyone else have these mixed feelings?

I've been diagnosed with stage 2, grade 3 and triple negative.  Well from my understanding, i'm waiting for the confirmations to all come in the post.  I remember them saying 18 weeks chemo, 5cm tumour, lymph nodes, masectomy, radiotherapy....

I still feel very detached and like they are talking about someone else as i dont feel ill.  I was hoping to be pregnant :( so feel very sad tonight that is unlikely to happen now with my diagnosis and that i'm 42.

So mixed feelings all around tonight. 

Mich x

 

 

  • Surry went to soon. Thank you Mich I will look at breast cancer now.

    I hope you are keeping well,

    Love Sue xx

  • Hi Sue,

    My tumours responded to chemo so was no evidence when they operated.  I was told though the risk of reocurrence is still there but they do what ever they cant to reduce it by following up with radiotherapy.  i wasn't given any stats etc.

    Just having a look now at the breast cancer forum, the ladies they are taking it have mets to reduce growth.  So its not essential for you to take but like you said they want to give you the option.

    I'll find the number for 'Someone like me'.

     

    xx

  • Hi Linda,

    That's what I thought. My tumor shrunk by 9 millimetres from 2 1/2  centimetres. I also thought that as I had clear margins and no lymph node involvement that it would reduce my chance of a recurrance. Aparently, thay like the tumor to have disapearred as well as clear margins. I don't understand why my risk of a recurrance is still 20-30 % but it is.

    Happy days!!!

    Love Sue xxx

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  • Hi Mich,

    I have just left a message on their answer phone asking for a call back xxxx

  • I don't understand it Sue because what about people who had surgery before chemo, how would they tell if they had a complete response, my mum had hers before chemo with clear margins but they didnt offer her Cape. I'm glad your oncologist is taking care of you, I wonder if I'll be offered it after rads then if i had 5% cells even though it destroyed 95% of them, the fb group I'm in is called triple negative breast cancer uk and Ireland support, its really good for answers xx

  • Hi Sue,

    Silly question so if no lymph node involvement, there would be no risk of mets?  Is that right?

    I read that with triple negative there is always the risk which is about 25% of recurrence. 

    You have to decide if you would be happy not taking it, or mentally would it make you worry that 'what if' and all the aches and pains you have would make you think it has returned.

    I'm not sure yet, if i would take it if offererd, although bouncing it off my husband now. He says yes why not, if any percentage can help go for it.  You've been through the chemo you can deal with a few more side effects a bit longer then at least you know you've done everything.  Guess easier said then done when its not their body.

    xx

     

  • Hi Mich,

    The cancer hasn't spread but that doesn't mean that it won't spread. The worry about taking the oral chemo is that I already have a reduced imume system and if I got the virus and take the oral chemo then I don't stand much chance. I have googled it and some experts say it works and some say it doesn't. My Oncologist said that in truth they just don't know . telling me that it might or might not help has kept me awake at night worrying.

    xxx

  • Hi Linda,

    You might very well be offered it. I'm no wiser than you but you can always ask your Oncologist if it will help in your case. I only had a phone consultation and wasn't expecting to be offered more chemo as I thought it was off the table. I didn't get a chance to have any questions prepared.

    xxx