Oh poor you and your poor mum. Hoping is better than you expect

 X

Thank you for your kind words! 

All we can do is to have hope! X

Thank you for your kind words. There’s so many people on this journey yet it feels so unfair. Although I think “why us” when really it’s “why not us!”

i hope you’re doing well, sending love and light to you! X

Hi there, 

It's quite normal to Google things and we always home in on the worst parts of the information, never the success or good parts. That's not a bad thing. It does prepare us for things that may arise as the illness progresses. If your mum has just been diagnosed, the shock will still be very fresh for you and initially we search desperately for reassurance to alleviate the terrible news that you've heard. As the shock settles and reality sets in, you will learn to tackle each stage and meet it head on. The thing you have to do, is learn to speak to your mum and other family members of what may be the inevitable, whether it's months from now or years. It helps to be open and honest about how it affects you and the emotions you encounter, as you will not be alone in what you are feeling.

I lost my dad 8 weeks ago to lung cancer, but it was very advanced when found. I coped by having counselling well before his departure, as this helped me to do a rain check on my emotions, which I realised were totally normal and in context to the terrible situation you feel you are in. 

I can honestly say, that you do get through the situations cancer throws at you. The more you know, the more prepared you become. It is a ping pong of emotions you will experience, all totally normal. Let your shock settle. You will then start to absorb how you are going to deal with things more positively. For me, coming off work for a while to care for dad at home helped me immensely, knowing he'd had the best care and love. 

Wishing you, your mum and family lots of prayers, thoughts and hope. 

Mandy xxx

Thank you for your kind words of support. I’m sorry to hear about your dad.

You’re quite right, there’s so many thoughts and fears of the unknown but it’s all so fresh, got to learn to accept and then we go forward. 

What a cruel disease this is, but it doesn’t define us! I’m starting to feel a bit more positive about it all now, we still have hope!! 

Thanks again

x