When’s husband and I bought our house we had to have life insurance and took our critical illness without thinking about it much, I was 36 and he was 29. It’s a joint policy and didn’t think much about it after. Paid monthly from 2011 and actually forgot all about the policy.
March 2018 after watching “Lisa’s Army” the story about a lady (i know of her also through same nail tech industry).. 2 girls and was diagnosed terminally 5 wks after the birth of second daughter.. was devastated for her and her family.
This prompted me to take out life insurance with critical illness cover in my name and my husband did same in his name.. separately... both of us still forgetting we had the joint one running in the back ground!
Fastforward to Nov 2018..my sons 3yrs 6months (Hes my miracle as I lost 8 babies and had 2 eptopics during my fertility fight, we were trying for another then... ) I find a breast lump it’s sore, I have Bupa so went through and saw Docs locally..
Dec 2018 the diagnosis came in: Triple Negative Breast Cancer stage 1 Grade 2/3...
Changed care .. so unhappy with local services and care.. so glad changed!
January Started Neo adjacent chemo EC x 3 3 wks apart, 12 Pax/Carbo only managed 5 4 wk chemo break was so sick and bloods so low.. finally Dox 3 every 3 wks only managed 2 neuropathy too bad to continue... chemo ended end May thansfully!
June vacuum biopsy results all clear! No signs of malignancy!
June bloods so low need iron infusion.. 5 seconds in severe allergic reaction (very rare I was told) ended with crash cart .. no more iron infusions for me
July surgery - lumpectomy, centinal node plus one and double breast reduction.. Developed severe allergic reaction to the tape used as bandages/support after breast surgery, left my skin and scars with massive blisters! Not pleasant, came off after two days...
Now awaiting surgery biopsy results and radio plan.. praying no more chemo
My dilemma is not the treatment so much, have had no choice but to find my big girl pants and kick on through...its my problem now seems to be my husband.. he is talking about how much money “we” have coming and what “we” are going tO do with all the money.. like he’s divvying it out already!
I feel strange he’s so excited for my payout and I’m not and like he’s just going to take control of the money and do as he deems fit..
I feel like moving it all out of joint account once it’s in and seeing how he reacts! It’s like he’s won the lottery thanks to my cancer
