Hi Salemslot,

Welcome to Cancer Chat although I'm so sorry to read about what's brought you here and what you're both going through. I'm sure this is incredibly difficult.

Fear of the unknown or the 'what ifs' can be quite debilitating, especially if your husband is struggling a little already. It's a cliche but try to - and try to help him to - take things one step at a time. E.g. the next step is to have the appointment for the tests, so that the medical team can offer a path forward.

Whatever happens, there is plenty of support available, depending on what might be helpful or necessary to you and your husband. You're not alone with this.

Your husband's medical team will be be able to offer support and guidance to move forward. You can also discuss anything with our nurses on freephone 0808 800 4040, Monday-Friday, 9-5.

Perhaps also try to help your husband to talk about his worries, and/or to write things down about how he's feeling. This can be helpful for both of you to help process things.

This forum is also a very supportive community, so do feel free to use it as a safe space to talk about how you're feeling.

Wishing you all the best and do let us know how you get on - if you would like to of course.

Ben

Cancer Chat Moderator