I am so so sorry to see what you wrote. I have been through exactly the same thing with my Mother 15 years ago and it breaks my heart to tell you her outcome was, well, she is no longer with us. I would like to go on but I need to know how you will feel if I tell my story. so if you would like to hear more just let me know as I really don't want to upset you. Good luck and cherish every day with her.

Thank you so much for replying. I want you to tell me I have every tomorrow with her but I know I’m clutching at straws. Please do tell me your story as I want to be there, protect and support her as much as I can. She’s the strongest woman I know and my absolute best friend and just breaks my heart to try and make myself accept that I can’t just wish her better.

Hi Panky. You have a strong Mum and that's good, I wish I could tell you that you have all the Tomorrows you want , but sadly in my Mums case she had about 9 Months. She thought she had Indigestion so she never bothered with going to her Doctors, she was 66 and did not go to the Doctors unless she was really ill. I have no idea if she was diagnosed then she would have had more time with my two Sisters and I. It must have been in the new year she started having thie "Indigestion" and the Rennies did take care of it for a while. She was unable to eat much so she eventually went to the Doctors in the September then had the tests which came back as Cancer in the October.

 She never told me if she had any treatment for it, (we were not that close really), and she slowly deteriated and was in Hospital from the November. They allowed her to come home for Christmas and we all went round as it would be her last. She went back into Hospital on Boxing day. She lost weight and was slowly dying.

 She passed in the middle of January she was pretty much coherent up until the end as my Wife and I went to see her that evening. She was in some pain but the Hospital did all theu could to make her comfortable and he pain was bearable.

I hope your Mum will beat this, but in my case the outcome was as expected. I also lost my Father to Brain Cancer when I was 24, (I am now 60) so both of them was taken by Cancer. All I can say is what you said and cherish everyday with her. I did not know my Mum had Cancer until the October, but you could have a lot longer with your Mum and I really hope you do.

I will be thinking of you and your Family at this most horrible time and hope you have man many good days together. I hope this has not made you too upset and made you day more miserable. We as a Family pretty much ignored it with my Mum, until it was obvious she was going to die, maybe it worked for us and we were prepared for the inevitable outcome. 

My only piece of advice I can give you is not to dwell on it (God knows it won't be easy) prepare youselves for the outcome and look on every day as a bonus. If she is still active don't let her stop living. Good luck.