Hi bumblebee 

i am so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through this. I know exactly how you feel when you say that you’re struggling to sleep / function etc as I felt exactly the same when my mum was diagnosed with nsclc a few weeks back. I don’t have any real words of advice to make you feel better, I just wanted to let you know that I also feel the same. My mum’s diagnosis has been a big shock to us all as she looks healthy and has no symptoms and is a non smoker. She’s recently started tablets for targeted therapy and we are praying they work. I really hope that your dads treatment works for him too and that you all can carry on creating amazing memories together x 

Hi, 

I totally understand how you feel just now as my dad was also diagnosed with a non curable lung cancer last week and has been offered only palliative treatments.  The cancer was due to asbestos exposure through his early working life and he has always been a healthy man and is only 72 years old with far too many things he still wants to do with his life for this to happen.  I felt like vomiting for several days when I found out, can’t eat much, I lost 4kg in a week, can’t sleep much either.  Couldn’t speak about it without crying for days but as you also said I feel I need to be there for my mum and dad as well.  I have focused all my energy into trying to remain strong for my daughters, parents and looking into what treatments he can try to prolong his life, there are lots of trials happening so hopeful he will be able to get on a good one.  Also want to make lots of great memories with him while we can. Life is so cruel sometimes but we have to make the best of what we are given and be thankful for any extra time we are given.  As my dad said after he had his diagnosis, “ life goes on!”. I intend to make sure his life is full of as many happy memories as possible now. Xxxxx

Thank you so much for your kind words - I am so sorry to hear the news about your Dad too. It all feels so cruel and I'm afraid I have no words that can make you feel any better either. Stay strong and if you need someone to talk to who is feeling the same, please feel free to mesage me. Someone said to me the other day ...'there is no way we can get around this, we just have to get through it'  ....I feel that this is so true in our circumstances. xxxx