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just joined have been reading some posts find it very useful. found a lump in breast a couple of weeks ago and am going to breast clinic on Thursday. Im a very procactive person i like to plan for every eventuality husband is opsosit doesnt want to talk or even chat about outcomes. Have a wonderful sister but she is a worryer so dont chat to her, she knows but already got upset. How did everyone deal with the upcoming apointment

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    Hi ya ..

    Everyone takes this news differently .. some are in shock .. some can't stop crying ... some like your hubby, find it too hard to talk about cancer ... everyone involved takes it differently .. all those ways are normal .. once your hubby, sees you can cope, he may open up .. there's too many times everyone tries to stay strong, and then no one copes ... up this journey is like every journey, better when someone shares it with you .. 

    It's o.k to share tears .. it's o.k to feel scared .. anything really is o.k .. but the more you can all come together the easier it will be ..

    I went through loads of different feelings and emotions .. l shut myself away, got them all out, till I was cried out .. then l felt ready to take it on .. got a pair of pink vertual boxing gloves and got in the ring with cancer .. looked it in the eye .. and said bring it on ... feeling scared witless but still doing what you have to,  that's being brave ... cancer wants us weak and vunerable ... then it feels strong .. but there's lots of us breast lasses on here trying to kick it's butt ... 

    So welcome on board ... any questions or just a chat .. I'm here most days , .... Chrissie x 

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    I recently had a mri scan and they found 3 lumps, I have a had biopsy and results came back all clear.  It in that time me and my husband were open about it. I was more laid back and didn’t really think much of it. ( I did get my life insurance papers out just to see if I was covered as I have two kids) I think I was worried but kept it all in. I got really ill and I was emotional but that’s ok. I think you should talk about it because it’s something we all put off. Even tho I’m all clear. I’m now going down the route of a double mastectomy as I carry the gene. I think you just have to be calm but at the same time know different options if there was any bad news. Everyone is different in how they cope in situations. 

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