Emotional Wreck

Hi everyone my names Christine and I'm 41.

I've recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and just can't believe it.

I've had surgery, and have been told my margins were clear and so were my lymph nodes, which I know it's great news, but when followed by but you will still need chemo and radiotherapy, well it took me a while to accept that it was good news.

Im due to start my chemo on 11th April, and I'm hoping to use the cold cap and maybe not lose all of my hair.

Im so scared though, I watched my mom to through so much with pancreatic cancer 15 years ago, and just can't belive I've got to go through this now (sorry if I sound selfish).  I cry so much, I've actually thought it would be better if I got knocked over and killed to avoid my family, husband and girls having to go through all of this.

I've been reading through the posts before I've taken the step to post myself  and Id appreciate any words of advice.

All take care 

Christine 

  • thank you, I do think sometimes the mind plays tricks x

  • thank you for taking the time to post. Sounds like you have been through so much and yet you take the time to comfort others.

     

    I agree, the body and mind can have a negative impact on you, and I'm constantly questioning myself.

     

    I wish you all the luck in the world. Only today I said to a friend of one more person says you'll be fine.... .  But  else can they say?

     

    Take care x

  • Hi Christine 

    Back from lumpectomy,now its the wait again for the results.  They actually removed my axilliary lymph nodes,which is all of them under armpit area into breast. Am jot supposed tonuse my arm too much but keep forgetting not to.How are you getting on with your treatment?? I M interested to know how you are coping and the effects on your body and your life.

    I really do not want hormone therapy with all the side effects I have read up on.

    Take Care Nd all of the best

  • Hi

    I'm glad that's over with for you now, I know the waiting now is terrible.  Try to keep busy and stay positive.

    I'm using my arm well now and the scars are healing well. Saw the breast nurse yesterday as I was a little worried about how the breast was feeling, not a lump but like a bulge on the side. She said it's fluid though so that's better that I was  worrying about.  So that worry stops and I stated getting numbness in my fingers. Feels just constant at the moment like I've got to be worrying about something or other all the time.

     

    My chemo starts tomorrow, Quite anxious but I'll let you know how it goes.  So far other than 2 weeks of after surgery, my life has carried on as  normal. I'm planning on working through chemo just 3 days a week if I feel well enough. My bosses have said to just do what I feel up to.

    What I find the most frustrating is not being able to plan anything, it feels like my life is on hold for next 6 months or so.

    I haven't read too much about hormone treatment, which is very strange for me. I normally like to know everything and be in control, but to be honest I don't want to know too much about anything at the moment. All I know it's that I want to stop these hormones from doing what they have done to me again, so I'm fine with the treatment.

     

    Take care, rest up x

  • Hi Christine

    The word chemo seems to terrify most people. I also find if you do too much research it just puts more strain and creates unneccesary worrying. Take it as it comes and fight it head on,there is not much more one can do. Atleast we know it is doable. Keeping busy and things as normal as possible makes it easier I suppose. Am pleased that your boss is supportive as well.

     

    All if the best on your journey,eapecially with the chemo.

    Nadia