Hi, My dads wife was diagnosed with cancer again a few months after their wedding. It was originally bowel cancer but she had had her 3 yr clear & now it is wrapped around her coccyx bone. I’m honestly not sure if it was marrying my Dad or finding out the cancer was back but she has become a bitter person only towards my Dad & his 2 older daughters. I have no idea what it must be like to be told there is no cure but the tumor seems to have stopped growing. So there’s also no telling how long she has...it could be many happy years as she isn’t in any pain so far. To the point, I would actually say my Dad could have less time then her but he feels it is his duty to be there for her 24/7. He also suffers with depression & now not being able to work because she won’t let him  and before she was stable the treatment really did have some horrific side effects but now it’s hard for everyone to deal with because she seems fine on the outside & just comes across lazy in my eyes. It’s good for her to move about she’s told me that & the doctors told her that. I’m worried about my Dad, she’s killing him mentally, draining his energy away and she seems fine. I spend a lot of time with them (4-6days a week) & I use to love my stepmum! I guess she never loved me but I feel I need to save my Dad. You might think this is a horrible introduction but it’s eating up me worrying about my Dad...I have my own little family to take care of now & I would like my son to grow up with his really cool grampy (if he’s still in there somewhere!) Has anybody else experienced a cancer patient being possessive over their carer/husband. How do you keep the piece but also save the carer ?