Oesophageal Cancer

Hi,

my dad has recently told me he has Oesophageal cancer. I think he was diagnosed just before Christmas 2018, but didn’t want to tell me as he didn’t want to upset  me. He isn’t having chemo and it is inoperable. I have seen him twice these past two weeks and he is so skinny, he is still eating but very little! I don’t think he has very long left but I think he is in denial. I am really struggling to get my head around it, he lives 2 hrs away from me so I am trying to get there every weekend, but every time I leave I am so worried it will be the last time I see him. He is visiting a hospice a few times a week.

after writing all of this I don’t really know what I’m asking or wanting from people but I just feel I need to speak to people in a similar situation, I’m very close to my mum and sister but they don’t have anything to do with my dad so i feel very alone. 

Thanks for listening to me ramble on 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat DaisyMay92 

    I am so sorry to hear your dad has recently been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer. One of our members [@davek]‍ also has inoperable oesophageal cancer and I am sure he would be happy to talk to you if you have any questions or if you want to hear his remarkable personal story. It does help to talk to someone who will understand your situation at the moment especially given the fact that you are feeling alone with all this. You will meet some lovely people here who will know exactly how you are feeling in the current circumstances. 

    How kind of you to be travelling to see your dad so frequently even if he lives 2 hours away. I am sure he really appreciates it especially if he feels  isolated at the moment and I hope that you are managing to spend some quality time with your dad. 

    We're all here for you anytime you need to talk so don't worry you are not rambling on and do keep in touch we'd love to hear from you again. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator