Hi Shirlarella, I'm new to the foram too, my husband is about too start his radiotherapy, on 25th of this month, he is so matter of fact about the whole process, he says it is what it is, he has cancer at the base of tongue and neck, I on the other hand must have read everything about his treatment and side effects and I'm scared to death for him, I've gone through so many emotions and cried so many tears, I question all the time, am I saying the right thing, doing the right thing, being strong is easy to say but not that easy to do, perhaps chatting with others will help, I'm here and a good listener if you want to chat with me . Xxxx lizanne xxx