Hi Arsenal,

Welcome to the forum.

I am so sorry to hear about your discovery of a lump. You have probably been referred to a breast clinic and will likely get your appointment within 2 weeks. When you get to the clinic you will probably have a discussion with your consultant, a physical examination, a mammogram and/or an ultrasound and, a biopsy. It then takes 1-2 weeks to get the results of these tests back and, this can be a nerve wracking time as you wait for them. Many of us tend to think the worst at this stage. Fortunately, this selom turns out to be the case.

I am so glad to hear that you are in a better relationship than you were. You will appreciate your partner's support in the months to come. Can he attend your appointments with you? It makes a big difference to have someone accompany you. This is particularly important when you are going to get any test results. It can also be helpful to draw up a list of questions for your consultant before each appointment. These will change from one visit to the next.

Don't exclude your partner from any aspect of your journey. You will find that you are both stronger together. Many women don't tell their children, other family members and friends until they have a definite diagnosis. Of every 10 people referred to the breast clinic, only 1 will have cancer, so I am hoping that you will be one of the 'lucky 9'.

Do please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you so much for your kind words and encoragement.I received in the post this morning an appointment for 25th March..my first thought is  that came through very very quickly considering I was at the docs on Monday!