Hello Nicumbu and welcome.   Everyone here has been gone through diagnosis and treatment for cancer or having cared for someone who has.  I am in the latter category having lost my mum, my son's father and other relatives and friends.  It is many years now since my mum died but I can still remember the awful feelings which accompanied her deterioration and the knowledge that we would lose her.  Don't get me wrong - I still miss her but remember her now with a smile and the same love I have always had for her.  Of course we know logically that our parents are very likely to die long before we ourselves do but somehow we cannot envisage that it will really happen that we will be left without them.  Until it does.  So you have come to the right place!  Annie

Hi, my grandad has stage 4 lung cancer and I don’t know what to do with myself/how to cope. I saw him today and he seems fine but I know he only has a few months left and it breaks my heart as he is so precious and smart and his brain is still very sharp. It breaks my heart that he won’t be here to see my gcse results next year, or anything like that as it’s such a surprise becuase he’s seeemed fine for ages and he’s not in any obvious pain.