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After being diagnosed with breast cancer the most astounding thing I have learnt is how people react. Although I fully appreciate everyone believes they are offering supportive vibes .... I have found exactly the opposite.  Is it me I am wondering?  From comments like 'it's not grade 3 you must be really pleased' to receiving cards in the post reading 'Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise'.  I am not skipping down the office feeling pleased it is not grade 3 or feeling it's my darkest night either . I feel I am in the hands of professionals,  have been diagnosed early and taking each step as it comes.  The reactions astound me or Is it me?

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    Hi 

    I get where you are coming from! It is astonishing what people say. Sometimes I think it because they don't really know what to say. I just smile and accept the compliments on how well I look or when people ask how can I possibly be working in such terrible circumstances. I guess we are all different and I cope better going to work and concentrating on something else. Others really struggle with it and I appreciate that too. I have been lucky and I am halfway through radiotherapy. I imagine having chemo really is draining so I am thankful to be giving that a swerve. Respect to all BC ladies, we all have the fight to win. Best wishes and I hope all goes well with your treatment. 

    C x

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    I so agree that people’s reactions can leave you speechless or indeed angry

    My lovely husband died on 19th Jan,from a very aggressive small cell cancer,16 weeks from diagnosis to the end

    If anyone else says “at least he is not suffering anymore”,I think I will punch them!!

    He wasn’t suffering his medication saw to that, that comment does not comfort me at all, and I shouldn’t think it helps a lot of other people either

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    Hi Moo66

    I am so sorry that you have lost your husband. You must still be in shock! I lost my dad not long ago and I totally agree with you. My sister lost her baby son and people actually said to her "never mind, you can have another baby"

    Sending best wishes to you. 

    C x

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    Thank you for your support ... I feel awful for being so honest but this is the only forum I can air it where i believe it will be truly understood.  

    I too should just have the op and radiotherapy but lets see after the Op on 11 March as that might change.

    Thank you for your support and good luck with the rest of your treatment xx

     

     

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    Thank you for your comments ... I feel awful for being so honest but appreciate your honesty too, it means so much. I nearly didn't put it out there.

    I cannot begin to understand how you are coping after losing your dear husband so cruelly, but It really is surprising that the people you believe would be the most supportive are the one's to avoid.

    Always here if you need a chat and thank you for commenting xxx

     

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