Hi Jordan,

Welcome to our forum, although I’m sorry for the reason that has brought you here. I am so sorry to hear about your grandad’s diagnosis and of your dad’s murder at such an early age. How sad that you never got to know one another.

I would advise you to wait for a full diagnosis first of all. Then you will have a better idea of what you are up against and how you can best help him. Discuss the Cannabis products with his consultant, as some alternative products can react with allopathic medicine. You will also find that there is a great difference in the various Cannabis manufacturers, so you want to find a reputable product if you want it to work well.

I lost my mum to metastases from breast cancer 21 years ago and I still miss her to this day. In the end she had metastases in her liver, lungs, brain and bones and it was a hard journey for her. All we could do was to be there for her, to tell her how much we loved her, to see that she was as comfortable as possible, to ensure that her pain meds were working, to ensure that she saw all the people she wanted to see, to take her to places that she wanted to visit, to see that she had appetising food prepared for her, that her washing and ironing was done, to read to her, to watch TV together, to say anything that we wanted to say – don’t leave anything unsaid!

Yes, most of these are mundane everyday things and we can feel frustrated by how little we can do for our loved ones at this stage, but the emotional side is just about as important as the medical side of care. Do you have other family or friends who can support you through this? It is a great help to have someone who you can bare your soul to at times.

Please let us know what your grandad’s full diagnosis is when you get it and, I may be able to suggest some other things that you can do.

Thinking of you both and hoping that you find the strength to see this through. Remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx