Hi there ..

I had a mastectomy last July.. about 10 days later, it looked like my boob was growing back ... had to have it drained twice, with loads of fluid being drawn out .. then 're stitched for third time which left a little hole ... it went a lovely shade of blue .. and looked pretty bad for a fare few weeks ..

I was luckier then you, coz my kids were grown and only my partner at home, so could take it easy .. the underarm was aching and has taken a long time to get 80% use back .. still can't lift anything heavy with it ..

Practically, you could ask McMillan if they could help with chores for a few weeks .. I know they do that here .. but worth an ask .. you need to reach out and find if there is any voluntary organisations that may be able too .. if McMillan can't ask them where you can go to get help ..

You have had a major op .. so don't be hard on your self .. it really is draining ... so I hope you find something ... and yes l think we all know there's some family or people we cared for, that just don't bother ... but just hold on to the good ones .. the rest arnt worth it ... sad as it is .. that's why we find this chat page so helpfull because we know how it all feels ... there's lots of us breast ladies here .. you've heard from rilleyroo and our cancer journey started about the same time ... it does get better .. and my scar is just a white line now .. and I'm proud of it .. it reminds me how far I've come on this journey of ours ... and it's a small price to pay, to stay with our kids and my grandkids ... Chrissie x