Hello Menalau; I am sorry to read of the difficulties you are going through and know I cannot start to imagine how you feel.  I am glad you have come to this forum as you can post here as often as you want for any reason - we often find it helpful just to let off steam and say how we feel. At any time day or night there is usually someone around.   Are you the only carer - it is a difficult and distressing task although I am sure you don't begrudge the effort you are putting in.  Just to say that there is a limit to what one human being can cope with.  Do you have any other family around?  Both my parents died in hospital so I was not tied up so closely in everything that was done and did have some time for myself.  I am attaching some information from this website about the need for carers to take care of themselves.  One of the items provides links to other carers with whom you might like to correspond from time to time.  Annie

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../family-friends-caregivers

I hope you feel able to

Thanks for your response- I have a sister but she works fairly long hours.  She’s very helpful though.  But it’s such hard work and mum is pretty helpless.