Lost without her

I lost my beautiful wife to metastatic bowel cancer on 2nd July 2018.She was only diagnosed on 14 June and didn’t even get a chance to have chemo or any treatment.My wife was 51 years young when she passed and we have three children aged 28/24 and 21 all stilli living with me.I am totally devastated and lost.I don’t know how to cope as she was always the strong one and knew exactly what to do with kids if they had problems.I am watching my kids slowly fall apart and don’t know how to help them.we were together 29 years and married for 25 this past April.Life just feels empty now.My 21 year olds partner is due to give birth in 3 weeks time which my wife was so looking forward to as it was our first grandchild and to think she will never see or hold it is unbearable.

  • Hello and welcome.  This all happened so quickly I can understand that your emotions are all over the place.  It is a sad symptom of the problems facing today's younger people that they are all still living at home but at least it means that you have the opportunities to talk to each other regularly and support each other.   Just talk about how you are feeling.  I am attaching some information about grief which you might find helpful - this varies so much from person to person and each person just has to do whatever feels right for them.  When first my mam and then my dad died I would keep things that had a connection with them, looked at photos (I still have their WW2 wedding photo - clothes rationing still in force) and thought about them. Supporting each other and ultimately time are the things that will gradually help so don't expect too much so early in your grief.  Annie

    www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../coping-with-grief