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my sibling has terminal cancer and it has spread - we have had a very difficult relationship (she’s first born and I followed after 8 years of my parents trying - so naturally there will be issues that’s to be expected) but since her diagnosis we have become closer.   She shares a lot with me and I feel privileged.  Am grateful I can help.

However I suffer from two mental conditions (one is autism and other bipolar) and have had 4 miscarriages, one very recently.  whilst I’m coping with lots of meditation and other support etc. I do feel my sibling has been very blessed with what she has and can have moving forwards.  Life is a gift and no one can say for certain what is meant to be ... I am doing the active listening and guiding and being positive for her but how are others coping, what are you doing?  I feel depleted (I am 40) and do not want to give up on her ...  any advice would be appreciated 

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    Hello BM,

    Thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear your sibling has terminal cancer that has spread but it is good to hear that your relationship with your sister has improved significantly. It sounds like you are helping her a lot and bringing her comfort at times when she needs it the most.

    You seem to have gone through a lot recently and having had four miscarriages, one very recently, is bound to have left a deep mark in you. I hope you have support around you as you probably have a lot that you need to get off your chest. It is important that you also take time to breathe and look after yourself while still being there for your sister.

    I am sure others who have been in a similar place as you in the past will be along soon to share their experience with you.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

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