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Oh what a year

Misty1
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Hi All 

This has been a year for me. Firstly my husband was diagnosed with mouth cancer in January but unfortunately cannot have the operation so I have become his carer. In February I was diagnosed with breast cancer but luckily I found it early so i had the biopsy and the operation I have now finished my course of 15 days of radiotherapy, there I met some lovely people and learnt a lot about breast cancer and found it very reassuring that there is light at end of the tunnel. I am still caring for my husband who now has a rig inserted which I have to feed him through. I have now had to have a colopsy as my results were not good, so waiting on results of that which is frustrating, sadly I am watching my husband suffocate, but in a way he is helping me to get through my times as I am him. I hope everybody that writes and reads on this forum it helps them tremendously as it has me.

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    I can empathise, I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January, just after finally getting back to normal,  after my husband was placed in a coma after having acute pancreatitis. Life hits you that way. Some people live long, event free lives and others, like us, have troubles thrown at us from all angles!

    It’s my daughter I feel for. She’s 14 and just wants a holiday, a proper one to Greece, to the sea. But on top of everything my husband and I both were made redundant and had to work freelance. So, we had to take time off, me to nurse him and then him to help me... so, not only can’t we take her due to illness, we can’t due to having no spare cash.

    she has been incredible and strong and inspirational, but is still young and wants what everyone else has... We are going on holiday, but just the two of us, on a trip to a friends in Holland. Not the glamorous trip I would love to give her, but I have to be greatful with what I can, but she deserves so much more. 

    If it makes you feel any better, I am cancer free, just having preventative treatment and my husband has been left with type 1 diabetes, but, although they only have him a 30% chance of survival, is still here. I have to be grateful for that. 

     

    This makes me a stronger person, I hope it does you too. 

     

    Take care xx 

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    Hi 

    Thank you for responding on my post, my daughter is 17 so bit more understanding, its my husband who wants a holiday so I suggest a weekend away be nice, in this country, but it's a matter of when as I also have appointments and so does he, and to go away is so much medication and machine and foods to take, and as he's not feeling to good either. I'm glad you are cancer free think I am also but like you say just on the tablets for now, and also news on my colorist, we are strong and will pull through. 

    X

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    Oh lord, the medication! Honestly, my husband is 44 and I’m going to be 47 in September and we have as much medication as two 80 year olds! With his insulin and digestive drugs, my thyroxine - oh yes, I have an under active thyroid to add to the mix - and my menopausal hot flushes, we would probably get stopped at customs! :) 

    I do hope everything goes well for you and you know that you are not alone!!

    x 

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