Nervous

Hi folks 

 

This is the first time I’ve ever viewed & posted on this am totally out my comfort zone. My husband has been diagnosed with lymphoma of the stomach grade 1 but is getting more symptoms so they have requested a ct scan & ultrasound on chest X-ray. The hosptial team have been great. But this week I feel ive actually just thought “ my husband has cancer” & been crying if anyone asks me about my husband. We have twins girls age 4 & wee boy age 7. I’ve contacted haven to get some self help tips for us both. Am so blessed to have a cracking loyal husband & our beautiful kids. But feel am lost 

Silly But anyone similar? 

  • Hi rodwell

    Welcome and hello.

    Diagnoses like a lot of people have had on this website is always difficult to deal with. It’s hard when it’s yourself but I think it is often harder when it is someon you love,

    Personally it is me with the cancer but my husband has been very ill and hospitalised three times between September and December,  That was tough. I know you want to be strong in front of him and the little ones and then go and weep in a corner. That is natural.

    It’s a real revelation when your brain admits that it is cancer that you are dealing with. I found some acceptance developed after that. And when there is a treatment plan in place it gets better. I’m not saying there aren’t those dark moments still but be assured that people on this forum will always listen whether you want to moan, cry or rant.

    Everyone here helped me. I go for my op on Monday but I will take each day, one at a time until then.

     

    Sending my virtual hand to squeeze yours,

    Sundial