Facial Cancer

Hello my husband has recently been diagnosed with nasal cancer which is just operable but he will be losing his nose, top lip and upper hard palate. This has come after recently moving in with my elderly parents one of whom has dementia. I now find myself in the position of being carer to all three. My husband has gone to pieces and is barely holding it together. I have gathered information for local support groups and saving faces for him to contact but he is refusing to help himself. I find myself swinging between anger and sadness at both him and the situation. So I find myself on this forum for some help and support. 

  • Hello Loubee59.  Sometimes it is a good thing that we don't know what life has in store for us.your   Are there local support groups that can help you with both your parent's dementia and your husband's cancer?.  I have no experience of mentia support but attach a link which may be of use.

    carers.org/.../dementia

    I guess I am suggesting that you seize any available sources of support otherwise the overall burden will become too much for you.    Not sure how recent your husband's cancer is but he does sound to be in denial.  There is quite a lot of useful information on this website and the MacMillan Cancer Support website you might like to look at.  I am sorry that there is little I can do but recommend that you try to make some time for yourself; I consider this importnat but of course you must find some help to enable you to do this.  Is your husband getting support - you mention support groups - with his difficulties which I imagine must be considerable when the cancer is in such a visible area.

    I do hope that others in similar situations will come here and chat.    I know how difficult it can be caring for someone with cancer and how necessary it is to make time for yourself even when you are just caring for one person.  So please do keep coming here to let your feelings out.  Annie