The big C

Hi I am 54 and have lung cancer  I was a concrete driver for 22 years and got cancer from calcium powder we added to loads doing highway work. I excepted fact it does one no good to stress over all the time. I'm being strong for family I don't tell them the changes one goes through after all the chemo and radiation which I had 35 treatments , It appears to be in remission as of now I worry about going to sleep at night if I'm going to wake up in morning it took me almost a year to get over the fatigue which was worst part for now. I also have a degenerative spine and my bones are in chronic pain which I take pain meds for if I didn't I could not get out of bed in morning I'm told even if have back surgery the degenerative part won't stop so I feel I'm between rock and hard place and most people I hear have surgery with cancer once air hits cancer it's not good same happened to my brother in-law he had cancer started bleeding inside and once he was opened up to find bleeding air hit cancer within one day he passed away at 49.  I'm more worried about wife and 3 kids how they will handle more than I am about myself.Everything I read most people have 5 years or less to live after diagnosed it's tough once one gets the cancer then the bills and family that kills me to. Wish everyone the best and good luck to all and your family's.

  • Hi there, and welcome .... so sorry you've found your self on our cancer rollercoaster .. 

    My dad years ago worked down the pit from age 14 till he retired at 64 ... he got all the chest problems that come from that (names I can't spell) and he slowly got taken by it ... 

    I remember years ago , they would say when the air get to it, it gets worse ... but that was a long time ago ... things have come a long way ... 

    I know 5 years you say is scary but no one knows where we'll all be in 5 years ... no one knows what's round the corner .. some go quicker some push the odds right down the road ... so it's just my look on life , but I wake up every day and think wow I'm still here today, what can I do today that will make me smile ... so many people go without warning with heart attack or tragic accident ... they don't get even a day ...

    It's just another way to look at things ... live every day your given, fill your kids days with good memories ... and although we still get low days and sad thoughts, go with them as it's all part of this journey, get it all out ... then get back on the rollercoaster and every day you smile, or do something fun, your kicking cancers butt right along the road ... and when things get tough, just look around that rollercoaster and wer all there with you ...

    It's not about winning or loosing this journey. . It's about learning to dance in the rain ... you can do this ... I want to leave my family with the memories of laughter ... this is your journey...  I hope you find peace..  and theres always someone here, no mater what you feel, someone will know how that feels ...if you have trouble with the bills, you can call McMillan  and they have advisers there who can tell you if you can claim help ... and they have a wonderfull listening ear too ... take care ... Chrissie x