Hello Suebam. Welcome to the forum but sorry you have just had such bad news about your mum. What cancer does she have and have you had any information about treatment yet?
Allow yourself to be upset; for heavens sake this is your mum who is so ill. How is your mum taking this? If you can, just take your lead from her about how she wants it handled. But make sure to make time for yourself and how you are feeling. If you wish, please do continue to post here adn tell us how you, your mum and your family are doing. Annie
Thank you Annie mum has stage 4 squamous lung cancer she is starting chemo on the 9th all being well
She had 2 heart attacks last June which resulted in her having a stent not long after found out she had copd
Just after Christmas her go sent her for x-ray and from that point had scans and ebus and just got out of hospital after a bout of pneumonia
Last Tuesday we got her diagnosis from the consultant
Mum has days where she's really tired now like yesterday which happened to be my birthday and I felt really upset she didn't want to get out of bed to see me because this is probably going to be my last birthday with her then I felt guilty as I know she is ill (she does live with us )
I'm always the strong one in the family but I just don't know what to do
im so sorry to hear about your mum and the suffering she is going through. You sound like a wonderful daughter and I’m sure she really aprreciates having you around. I’m sure if she could of she would of done something on your birthday. It must hurt you so much I am actually quite tearful for you. Wish I could give you a big hug. So here’s a virtual one
Hello again, Suebam. Thanks for posting again; you have had a difficult nine months with your mother becoming unwell - it has been one thing after another. It is so easy to feel guilty in these circumstances but don't beat yourself up especially when you don't know which way to turn. My mam died from cancer some years ago now and it was new territory; even though I knew logically that my mam would die one day it was a terrible shock to face up to it when it was happening. I hope you are getting the help you need to go through this sad time; do you have MacMillan nurses or equivalent? They can be a great support and source of information. In any event you can always ring MacMillan Cancer Support (0808 808 0000) or the nurses here (0808 800 4040). And keep posting here if you want to get your cares and sorrow off your chest. Best wishes. Annie
