Hi Dave,

A warm welcome to Cancer Chat.

What lousy timing to be diagnosed with this so soon after your wedding. I am sure that it is not just your wife who is crying.

I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer and remember how my emotions were all over the place, especially to start with. My emotions changed from anger, tears, depression, fear, worry for family and everything else in between. Waiting for test results, as I’m sure that you’ve already discovered, was agony.

Sometimes family seem to suffer more than we do. We just have to get on with surgery and treatment, whereas family often say that they feel useless. This is far from being the case and, you will find that having the support of loved ones is a great help in fighting this awful disease. Speak openly with your wife and family. It is so much easier for all of you when you do. Sometimes family feel pushed away when you are diagnosed. Good communication channels prevent a lot of unnecessary worries.

You will find this site a useful place for advice, information and support as you make your way along your cancer journey. Your wife may also find it helpful. There are some burdens that neither of you may want to heap on to the other and it is helpful to have ‘cyber friends,’ who have already been through the same experiences as you to discuss these with.

I do hope that your surgery goes well. Please keep in touch and let us know how you fare. We are always here for both of you whenever you want to talk.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx