Hello tigerboy and welcome to the forum. So sorry you are having this worry about your mom. You haven't given us a lot of information and I don't know how much you know about your mom's illness. How old are you, tigerboy? Has your mom talked to you about this? Let us know a bit more information if you can and we will try to help you. Annie
Hi I am 64 and the only one,we talk openly about mom's illness and we are together 24 hours every day.Just feel that at 85 it is heartbreaking even though dispite her age I should be grateful that she has lived to this great age.
Sorry tigerboy for asking your age so bluntly; I had no idea whether your short message came from a young person or someone older - it can make a difference! I realise now that the 85 was your mom's age! Yes, 85 is a great age to reach but where your mom is concerned you never want to lose her. Where your age does not make a difference is the pain and heartache you are suffering. I am so sorry that your mum is beyond the reach of treatment. Have you spoken to her doctor about how long she is likely to live? Not that it is a precise science; so much depends on the individual and people with the same stage of the same illness can surprise us by the variations in how it progresses sometimes. I - like everyone else who posts here - have no medical training and am sorry I cannot answer your question. I wanted to answer your post because of the obvious distress you were feeling. Find out what you can from your mom's medical carers; you are obviously a loving son and I am guessing that you have no other family members with you to help with your mom's care (I know, I should not guess, I am not good at it!). I hope you will continue to post here as it can be very isolating if you have nobody helping you. Best wishes. Annie
Hi tigerboy is a password!!!As her daughter it heartbreaking today her breathing has been terrible and she has slept most of the day,basically the medical team have said nothing can be done but will be calling gp in the morning think she may have chest infection.The only thing to do is keep her comfy and settled.
Hi again. So sorry to learn that your mom is having difficulty breathing. It may be that nothing can be done at this stage but I can understand the need to reassure yourselves as to the cause. This is a horrendous time, waiting to see how things go and you have my great sympathy as even now I can remember going through the loss of my parents some years ago. Keep talking to your mum as she can probably hear you even though she cannot respond. Please let us know how things are going and whether you are getting the help you need.
Oh, by the way, sorry to not know your name. What should I call you? Annie
