Both parents have/had breast cancer.

Hi Guys & Gals,

 

As I say in my brief little bio, I don't want or wish to upset or offend anyone here in this community as, as far as i know I don't have cancer. But over the weekend I received a phone call from my father where he told me he's dying and has been given weeks to months to live and that he has breast cancer but it's spread and there's nothing that can be done other than to keep him as comfortable and pain free as possible. A few years back my mum also had breast cancer but hers was caught a lot earlier and after having a mastectomy and treatment she was given the all clear after a check up at the five year mark but still has regular tests.

I've made myself a doctors appointment to discuss if I'm at higher or an increased risk due to having one parent have breast cancer and kicked it's behind and my other parent will pass away from it in the not to distant future.

Was wondering if there's anyone else out there who is or has been in a similar position to me?

  • Welcome to the forum PudPud2018 although I'm sorry to read what brings you here.

    You won't be upsetting or offending anyone by posting as many members have found themselves in similar situations with their parents and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice as well as to share their experiences with you.

    If you use the 'search forum' option in the blue bar above and enter some keywords e.g. parents with cancer, you will find other discussions where you can connect with others on the same journey. Having a look at the caring for someone with cancer section of our forum may help you to find others in a similar predicament as well.

    I hope your doctors appointment brings you good news PudPud and I wish your family all the best at this time.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi PudPud,

    As this is your first post on the forum, I extend a very warm welcome to Cancer Chat. Please do not worry about upsetting anyone on this site. The beauty of a site like this is that it gives us all somewhere to speak openly about our fears and worries and to get replies from people who really know what you are going through, because they’ve been there too.

    What a shock you must have got when you received your father’s phone call. This is really a double whammy, coming on the back of your mother’s diagnosis. I’m glad to hear that your mother is doing well since she had her mastectomy.

    I lost my mum to breast cancer 20 years ago and, have experienced it first-hand for the past 7½ years. I had a second bout 6½ years ago, following which I had a double mastectomy.  Prior to this I was unaware of how many men fall prey to breast cancer, but it does happen.

    I hope that your visit to your GP will eventually provide some answers as to your own susceptibility and have everything crossed that your tests prove negative.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you, whenever you want to talk.

     

    Kind regards,

     

    Jolamine xx