Awful news Mike. Maybe just concentrate on filling the time until you have your prognosis chat next week? Then you will know more about what you are dealing with, and can take it from there.  Best wishes. Harry.

Hello Mike; so sorry about the bad news.  The good news is that there are some lovely helpful ladies on this forum who have been through the breast cancer mill and know what your wife will be going through.  I am confident that one or more of them will be along to give you some help with your query.  Frightening territory for you and god bless you for seeking advice on what you need to do.

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Thank you Annieliz, haven't got the hang of this yet.

Mike

As you say, everyone is different, Mike. But if I was in your shoes, I think I would concentrate on the fact that your wife still has a great chance of survival. Bilateral breast cancer sounds really scary compared to a 'single' one, which is bad enough. And I know, although I am not a medic, that the prognosis is indeed worse. But it is not much worse. And if your body scan is good (and in the majority of cases they are) your wife will remain as Stage III and not stage IV, which gives your wife a really good chance of survival. So if all goes to plan you and your wife will be feeling much better this time next week. She will be facing major chemo and surgery. But in the knowledge that she will then have a very good chance of putting this cancer horror story behind her, permanently.  I wish you both all the luck in the world. Harry.

Hi, I can sympathise completely with what you and your wife are going through ! Although not breast cancer o was diagnosed with kidney cancer in August age 44 , I have a teeenage daughter too ! I think it is harder on my partner and daughter sometimes !! I also think once you have a treatment plan in place you will both be in a better place ! If I can help in anyway please don’t hesitate to ask

Hello Mike. sorry t hear about your wife's diagnosis.It isn't an easy time, i know..

My best advice for you is to break everything down in to bite size, manageble chunks as trying to deal with it as a whole is terrifying. Don't try to second guess the experts and tell them everything , no matter how trivial it may seem. Stay positive and keep smiling; you had a normal life before cancer and you will have a new level of normal afterwards.Don't be afraid to ask for help from the experts, family or friends as they will want to help (lifts, cooking meals and we even had a friend who helped by doing the pile of ironing). 

As for the financial help, contact McMillan as they have Citizens Advice Bureau trained staff to get what they can and help you to apply for grants/benefits.

All the very best to you and your family. Remember, no matter hard it seems , keep smiling and stay positive as it really makes a difference.

Harry, Keira, thank you both and Keira I hope things are now progressing well for you.

I know that we need to focus on the positive and that the treatment options available now are amazing.

Think I was just hit with the shock overnight of what we'd been told yesterday. I'm sure once there's a plan and process in place things will be better.

Thanks again, Mike