Hi there ... so sad your going through this again ... cancer seems to be effecting so many people now .. and I know it's really hard to watch someone you love on this journey... my mum died suddenly with heart attack,  my dad went slowly with phynumonacosis, my cousin died a couple of weeks ago with lung cancer .. my sister has dementia my niece has cystic fibrosis ..  and I have breast cancer ... and there's more , so I know what it's like having so much going on in life ... but you have to try to go on ... there are so many people that have so much heart ache,  your not on your own ... but even with that, you need to try to find the strength to keep fighting ... I will not let these things hold me down ... I will find something to smile at every day ... I will not let cancer take away one day, it doesn't have to ... 

Feeling angry is so normal , we all have down days, no matter how tough we look .. so dont feel bad for feeling like that ...but it's about waking up and saying to yourself I'm gonna make the most of things ... so sending you careing thoughts .. chrisie x

Hi Merck,

I see that this is your first post to the forum, so a very warm welcome to Cancer Chat.

I am so sorry to hear what a distressing time you have had with so many loved ones falling prey to health issues. All of us on this site either have cancer or are caring for someone with cancer, so we all understand how you feel.

I have lost far too many family and friends with cancer and have been living with the disease myself for the past 7 years. I had a second primary the following year. I also lost my mum to metastases from breast cancer after caring for her for 12 years. In her final year she had secondaries in her brain, bones, liver and lungs. This is a terrible disease and it is both horrendous and heart-breaking to watch loved ones coping with it. I now care for my mother-in-law of 94, who has had dementia for a number of years and, I know just how wearing this can be.

There are some people on here who have lost several loved ones to cancer and then fallen prey to it themselves. Sometimes life just doesn’t seem fair! We do somehow or other find the strength to cope with all that is thrown at us. Do you have any relatives or friends who can support you? It is so difficult when you are trying to cope with all this on your own. Please don’t feel alone. Now that you have found us, we are always here for you, whether you want information, advice, support or just want to vent steam.

How is your husband coping with his diagnosis? If it is of any consolation to you, the emotions yuu describe are perfectly normal after a diagnosis like this. Do you cry a lot? If so, don’t try to stem the tears. It is a good stress relief to let them flow.

Rest assured that you are by no means the only one having to deal with all this. Have you considered seeing a counsellor. This is not for everybody, but some people find it quite a help.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here for you whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

im new to forum,my husband waas diagnosed april 12th this year,throat cancer,tried chemo,liked to killed him, had horrible side affects and also had severe ibs before being diagnosed with cancer.  so his cancer did shrink 80%,but little by little came bck and has spread to his lungs. he since had surgery on throat tookout voice box,lymph nodes, and a muscle on left side od his kneck. so now he can not even talk,although he does have speech prothesis it does not work well. they have offered himimmunotherapy,but scared of side affects, they have been known to be fatal and have only worked in 20% of people,but without it dr give him 6 months to live