Hi Sidneysmum,

A very warm welcome to the forum,

I am so sorry to hear about your breast cancer diagnosis and your struggle with chemotherapy. Do you have bother with 1 breast or both?  Do you have any family or friends who can support you through this difficult time? It is not at all unusual for our emotions to be all over the place after a result like this. If you feel like crying, let the tears flow. This is a great release valve for all the stress that you are under. The plethora of other emotions will gradually reduce as you travel further along your cancer journey.

I had a lumpectomy 7 years ago and a double mastectomy 6 years ago. Like you, I was unable to have reconstruction at the time. I have now got so used to coping with my prostheses that I have no desire to carry on with reconstruction. Some people claim that they no longer feel feminine after they have lost a breast, but I haven’t found that to be the case. There are so many lightweight prostheses around now, that you would hardly notice any difference and, now that they are so much lighter you would hardly notice that you are wearing them.

I hope that you get through the rest of your chemo and can then move on to surgery.

Please keep in touch. We are always here for you whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi there Sidneymum ... I too have best cancer grade 3 her 2 and I had my mastectomy 3 1/2 months ago .. I was dreading the operation but was so surprised how much better it was then I'd thought ... I had a total with no reconstruction,  and had seen pictures of others with that so was well prepared and when I looked at mine, thought I can live with that ... and now make the most of every day .. and feel quite positive .. but I did go through a lot of different emotions when they first said the word we all dread , cancer... one of our ladies on here was home by the evening drinking a copper... so please don't over think it ... just think they are taking away the thing that's making you ill ... 

Heres sending you positive thoughts ... take care Chrisie x