Devastated!!!

Hi I've just found out today that my Mum has C, we went for a CT scan today and will have to wait for the results. My whole family is in shock because she is, and always has been so independent and hides so much from us. We just don't know the best way to deal with it. I know we don't have any exact results yet so trying to stay positive, but have noticed a definite change in her. Just don't know what to say? 

  • Hi there ... welcome to our little chat room.... I’m 63 and a brest cancer lady ... and all I can say is what helped me ... at first there’s shock... then loved ones reactions... and my son was really worried and it took me a couple of days curled up in bed, not wanting to see anybody... but I got the shock out and my daughter in law got us together and said o.k you’ve got cancer, we will deal with it ... and we’ll cross any bridges as and when they come up... no more “what ifs” and we’ll do this together ... and it was the best talk id ever had .. she was holding my hand through tests and biopsy.. my niece was with me through appointments, writting everything down and asking questions ... it was so much easier when my son was calmer ... he stayed with me through my operation (mastectomy) 

    we all take every day as it comes .. they respect my decisions... support me ... and we’ve cryed, hugged, and because of my wonderful daughter in law, we’ve even found we can laugh at some of the things that come up ... it’s only things that helped me, and we are all different.. so I hope you find your path to take with her ... it’s not an easy journey but one you can manage if you all work together... 

    sending you all a big hug ... Chrisie ️ Xx

  • HI, I was recently diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer and was swiftly sent through for the OP to remove the issue..today i found out that they removed it successfully and while at it they had found another one hidden behind it which they had not found earlier..i was then also informed that it could have travelled further ,, this i will not find out for another 6 weeks due to just having surgery ...For me ,when i found out initially, it was complete shock .. having this type of cancer and no lump so to speak off .. my family were in shock and my extended family all called and offered love and sympathy ... But ... my attitude to it all, is that very few people actually die from it , if caught early and now i will go through what ever they give me to get rid of it ..its just cancer ... yes i will be ill while i go through treatment and yes there will be low days ..but i am not ill at the moment and do not want to be treated as soo .. so my advice is yes you will worry about the results but look at what if it is the case . now days it is a fight able illness and with the right treatment and support it will be cleared ... act like normal .. try and get on with things as normal and when you get the results deal with each step as it comes,, do not go searching for stuff about it ... as this will make it worse and you will think the worst .. they say surround your self with positive people and i say remember this can be contained and got rid off .. the power of the mind is strong :) be there for her but be your self xxx