Pancreatic cancer stage iv

Hello my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer with stage iv it was a horrible shock to us all and we went into a tailspin things are slightly calmer but everyday something new comes up and it's hard emotionally to stay focused and not collapse in a heap.   I love my husband so much and I feel for him so much I'm finding it hard to find time to spend with him and enjoy quality time when he's off chemo I miss the times when it was just us and our kids not having to spend each day with loads of people.   I sound selfish I know I'm grateful to everybody for their help and support but maybe I'm just harking back to our old life just feel so lost.    Normally I'm upbeat but in the small hrs I sometimes get up and just cry because I don't anyone to see especially not my husband or kids.  stay strong if you are going through anything like this. 

 

 

  • Welcome to the forum Star56 although I'm sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis and the impact it is having on you.

    Many members here have said it can sometimes be tougher on the person supporting the one that has been diagnosed and I'm sure some of them will reply soon to offer their support and advice. And what you've said above isn't selfish at all. In fact, I think it is completely understandable and natural to want that Star as many members here would agree.

    If you don't want to let your husband or children know how you are feeling just now maybe you could confide in a close friend or family member? I've included some information we have on our website about coping with a cancer diagnosis which I hope will help at this time but you can chat with us here any time of day as the forum is full of members who will know what you're going through having been in this situation with their partners and loved ones.

    As you've said above; stay strong Star and remember that we're here for you when you need us.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator