Thanks for the kind words Jolamine. The latest on my poor mam is that 2 days ago she had a fall and fractured her skull, resulting with some bleeding on the brain. She was admitted to hospital where they told my brother the next 24 hrs were critical. Having had no sleep at all that night I made the dreaded phone call the next morning, to find that my mam was feeling a lot better. The very kind nurse told me that my mam was unrecornisable from the lady that was admitted the night before. The nurse then took the phone to my mam so we could speak briefly, after this I spoke again with the nurse to thank her, at that moment I broke down and cried. I am sure I will cry a lot more before the end of this horrible time my poor mam is going good thro. My brother spoke briefly to the weekend doctor at the hospital, he mentioned that the cancer might have spread to mans brain and they plan to give her more scans early next week, so we are all getting ready for another stressful time.  Regards..... Melvin

Oh Melvin,

This is all your poor Mam needed. Still, it might work out for the best if they are going to do further scans for her.

I sincerely hope that the cancer hasn't spread to her brain. This happened to my own Mum. She had breast cancer for 12 years, but was diagnosed with secondaries in her liver, lungs, brain and bone in her final year. It was so sad to see her deterioriate so quickly after that. It must have been reassuring to be able to speak to your Mam when she was in hospital. I am not at all surprized that you ended up crying when you spoke to the nurse. This is a very stressful time for you. Don't try to stem the tears. Crying is good for releasing stress, so forget being macho and just let the tears fall.

I hope that you can get more answers in this coming week.

Kind regards,,

Jolamine

My mam died tonight.

Just reading your story Melvin. I'm very sorry to hear to hear your mums passing. I'm sure your wee mam is in a better place now though. Hope you are doing ok too. Xxx

My flight booked for tomorrow morning, went to bed early to get some sleep ready for tomorrow, then 2 hrs ago revived a call my mam is dead . Why did she not wait for me to get there.

Oh Melvin,

I am so sorry to hear this sad news and offer both you and your brother my deepest sympathy on your Mam’s passing.

It sounds as if the doctor who spoke to your brother was right after all. Did you manage to get over before she died?

Thinking of and praying for you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Sorry Melvin,

I have just read the above post, which tells me that you didn't make it in time to see your Mam. I am so sorry to hear this. It is so difficult to predict when this is likely  to come to pass.

I have heard many say that loved ones seem to find a way to go in their own time and space. My own Mum did this too. We were with her until the last 5 minutes, when my brothers and I went outside to discuss how many of us were going to stay with her overnight. We were standing outside her bedroom window, when I noticed that she had passed in that 5 minute window. I was really upset by this at first, but friends pointed out that I had been there for her for the 12 years she needed me and had to leave her room occasionally.

Still, that is my one big regret, that I wasn't with her right to the very end.

Regards,

Jolamine xx

I'm so sorry to hear your mam passed away last night Melvin and on behalf of the team here at Cancer Chat I just wanted to offer you our sincerest and heartfelt condolences.

Your mind may be racing with thoughts right now and our lovely members will do all they can to help you work through them and support you at this difficult time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator