Hi

My heart goes out to you.

I am so sorry you and your family are going throgh this.Dont feel guilty about your past relationship with your dad.

Make the most of each time you see him and tell him you love him.

I can understand how you and your brother must be feeling.

If i were in your situation i think i would want to know but only you can decide what you want to do.

Be strong and try to be positive.

Perhaps it may help if you had a chat with one of the nurses.

Thinking of you all 

Xx

Hi Kelsey,

Welcome to Cancer Chat.

This cannot be an easy journey for you, but death is something that we all have to face at some stage in our life. I cared for my Mum when she was terminal with secondary breast cancer. In her case it had metastasised into her liver, lungs, bones and brain. It was so harrowing to watch her deteriorate so quickly at the end.

Thirteen years after she died, I fell prey to breast cancer myself and I have now had it for 7 years. I have had two bouts of primary breast cancer, the second a year after the first.

We think that our cancers may be genetic too, but my daughter has decided not to have tests. She said that she would rather live a normal life for as long as she can, but will always be vigilant for any changes. She was only 17 when I was diagnosed, so I cannot blame her. She was also concerned about how a positive result might impinge on her ability to get a mortgage, life insurance, etc.

I am glad to hear that you have become closer to your Dad recently. It is diffiult when you have a lengthy journey to see him. I used to have a flight to see my Mum and near the end, I was never sure if I would see her again.

I wish you strength to see this through. You'll need it, as this is not an easy time and, I hope that when your Dad passes, he does so peacefully.

Please keep in touch and  let us know how he gets on.

There is always someone here for you whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx