Hi Wolfie,

Welcome to Cancer Chat, although I'm sure that you would rather be anywhere else but here.

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but am glad to hear that your drugs are having some effect. I have had 2 bouts of primary breast cancer, the first diagnosed 7 years ago and the second the following year. I have also had quite a number of false alarms. My Mum, had breast cancer too. She survived for 12 years and it wasn't until her final year that she was diagnosed with metastases in liver, lungs, bone and brain. She went downhill very quickly in her final year and treatment was nowhere as good as it is today. Pain control was also ineffective. That was 20 years ago and although I am amazed at how much more advanced treatment is, I still live in fear of getting a secondary diagnosis.

I feel for you and your partner. You are where nobody with cancer wants to be. I wish that there was something that I could do to help you, but sadly there isn't. I am glad to hear that chemo has brought about an improvement in some areas. Enjoy the chemo break and hopefully, it will continue to shrink things when you return to it after your respite.

I too am on Morphine patches and anti-depressants amongst a plethora of other medicines and find that these do make you feel exhausted. I hope that you sleep as and when you need to. I don't think that I was awake much throughout the day for the first 6 years, but I didn't sleep well at night. My poor hubby took me out to cinemas and theatres to try and distract me from looking things up on the internet, but he had to keep denting me throughout the performances, as I kept falling asleep. I have cut down on some of my medication due to side-effects and feel slightly better since I did this.

How did you break your collar bone? It sounds as if you have been having a really tough time recently.

I can fully appreciate that it must be difficult to find things that you can eat and drink. What do you survive on? I ask because there is the partner of a patient with mouth ulcers who is struggling to find suitable food for her partner. You might be able to help her? Her name is Anxiousgf and she has posted under the heading of ‘Caring for someone with Cancer.’

I am so glad to hear that you have good support from your wife and family and hope that you continue to make some progress with your treatment.

Instead of dwelling on the terminal aspect of your diagnosis, try to make memories with your family, while you are well enough to do so. These are something hat they will treasure for years after you have gone. Do you have some good photographs of yourself with the family? These are also something that they will treasure for years to come. It may not be the best time to take photos at present, but they are still better than nothing.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on. There is always someone here for you whenever you feel like talking.

Thinking of you and praying for that miracle !

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Wolfie I am sorry I don't have anything advice wise to share with you as I am new to all of this myself but having read your post I wanted to say to you that I am appalled by how cruel this *** cancer is and I am sending my very best wishes to you and yours and I know that's not really any help at all but I too like Jolamine am praying for that miracle for you . very best wishes Sam

Does the chat site have specific pages for each of the cancers? 

Hi Sam, I'm still quite new to this and was wondering the same thing. Welcome to the site. Cissy x

Hi Cissy thank you for the welcome and I too am new but thankfully Renata has answered.  Thanks again Sam x