This must be particularly difficult for both of you. We all deal with a cancer diagnosis in different ways. Some people try to block it out and pretend that nothing is amiss, whilst others are happy to give you their full life story. Can I ask what age your son is and do you have any other children, also is he married or does he have a young family of his own.? Try to let him know that you are still interested in his cancer journey. Let him know how much you love him and want to be there to support him. Be prepared to have an angry young man respond by snapping at you sometimes, but don't let this put you off.
Emotions are all over the place at a time like this, especially when it is already in his bones. He will probably also be afraid of dying. All of these feelings are perfectly natural, but can be very off putting for loved ones. Does he have anyone that he can confide in? It is a great help if he has.
Is he going to be given any follow up treatment to curtail the growth of his tumour? I really feel for you, especially, when he won't talk to you. I lost my own Mum 20 years ago to secondaries from breast cancer. She survived for 12 years and it was only really in her last year that the metastases were discovered in her liver, lungs, brain and bones. I myself was diagnosed with breast cancer 7 years ago and had a second bout of primary cancer in the same breast the following year.
Please keep in touch. There is always someone here whenever you feel like talking.
I hope that one day soon he will realize how much better it is to confide in loved ones and that he will turn to you.
