Hello, my husband was diagnosed six weeks ago with inoperable stage 4 lung cancer. Please don't feel guilty for the feelings you are having. I have felt and still feel the exact same feelings as you and am sure most other people on the forum have too. I try not to think too far ahead as it is a place I don't want to go - instead I try and just deal with each day and each new obstacle as it comes. Take care x

Dear I'm so scared.

First I would suggest you realize that your fear is of the unknown not of losing a loved one or having cancer because theses things are natural. What your real fear is not knowing whats next. heres my story of NO FEAR'

Hi I have been diagnosed with incurable form of lymphoma as I sit here I have a ping pong ball size lump on my jaw line a left leg swelled up twice as big as the right and labored breathing and sore as hell. But could not be happier because I have no fear because I have no doubt of what happens after this. I was given a gift around 5 years ago that changed my life.......... My mother had a stroke that left her body locked in position and brain dead as she laid in the hospital bed with her family around I was holding one hand and my niece was holding the other with my sister at the foot of the bed. While my mother was hooked to a life machine we were trying to get the courage up to let my mother go and turn off life support. We called the doctor told him to let her go and he turned off the life support with only the heart monitor still on with the steady beep of her heart.
 Then all of a sudden me and my niece said at the same time did you feel that.what felt like a long time but in reality lasted only seconds.
 I was filled with a warmth a peace and happiness that was like I never felt before. I felt very odd because I knew or felt like I had a smile on my face when I turned to tell the rest of the family mom was gone. The look they gave me was what are you talking about then I realized the beep of the heart monitor was still tracking a heart beat I said call the doctor because mom has gone she's no longer here. The doctor was called and he confirmed that mom had passed . What none of us knew was that the pace maker my mother had needed to be manually turned off after death. This is How I knew the heart monitor was wrong and my mother was gone. Before she left she gave me the gift of knowledge the kind of knowledge that levees no room for doubt. Her spirit felt like it was shouting to me its real its all true God is real Heaven is real there is no such thing as death just a new beginning Ever since then I have had no fear. I believed my mother knew I would need this knowledge in the near future to keep me from losing my sanity because a few years later the worse pain and fear happen to me I lost one of my son's but I knew in my heart he's was OK heck better than OK he was perfect in a perfect place. GOD IS REAL. BELIEVE THIS AND HAVE NO FEAR