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Hello. I am very new to this forum. My husband had a call yesterday from our gp following a ct scan the day before to tell him that he has got lung cancer. He is now awaiting an urgent referral to the hospital. To say we are beside ourselves with worry and fear is an understatement. 

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    Hi Christine,

    I haven't heard from you for a while and was just wondering how you are both getting on?

    Regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    How kind of you to ask after us. It is all very surreal for us, and we are not coping very well. My husband had 3 weeks of twice daily radioactive and chemotherapy at the same time. The travelling and long days wore us both out, him more so. He is back on Tuesday for chemotherapy as he had to have one course over two weeks while having the radiotherapy. He still has two cycles left to have. Emotionally we are struggling , I know there is lots of help out there but to be honest we are not in the right head space to make use of it. I read other people saying "Make every day count" and "Live your life" but it is all too hard. 

    Thanks for your message

    Christine

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    Hi Christine,

    I feared that this might be the case when all fell silent and I am so sorry to hear that things are so hard for you both.

    Twice daily treatment for three weeks and all the travelling back and forth are enough to exhaust a fully able-bodied individual, never mind your poor husband, who is neither in his prime nor fighting fit. How far away are you from the hospital?

    I can imagine that you both feel pretty exhausted with all this. How has your husband been coping with the radiotherapy and chemo?

    I can fully understand that you are not in the right place to make use of any of the help groups around and you probably won’t be until the courses of treatment are finished.

    The advice of ‘make every day count’ and ‘live your life’ is good, but there are certain times that they do not seem to apply and you are at such a stage just now. None of us can stay positive all the time. We all have moments of low esteem and exhaustion. When treatment is over and he does not feel so fatigued, you can apply these gems again.

    I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you both and saying a wee prayer every night that he comes through this well.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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