Hi jodie, 

So sorry to hear about your mum and I hope you are having a better day today. Reading your post it became apparant that we seem to be going through exactly the same thing. My mum was diagnosed back in march 2015 and was given a life expectancy of 2 years. She was also diagnosed with bowel cancer that has lead to secondary int he liver and was not able to have surgery therefore has gone through many sets of chemo. At first my mum said she was also not given a number to what stage of cancer it was. Me and my sister to this day still dont know wether she is trying to keep it from us or she just hadnt been told. With this I would try to respect your mums wishes. I know how frustrating it may feel and you want to know all information possible but maybe your mum is the complete opposite and doesnt want to know anything to keep her positivity? Everyone deals with cancer in different ways. 

However, if you are feeling like you want to know more information about it there are so many centres out there that will help you out with this. I have been through what youre going through and at the beginning it does feel like theres no positive light but believe me it does get better and theres always ways to turn a negative into a positive. 

I wish your mum the best of luck with her journey and if you ever need to talk im open ears and im sure you have many friends and family that can support you through this. 

Lots of love, 

Georgina x