oh Your life was sailing along beautifuly then illness stopped you in its tracks.

When i read your words, my first thought was completely different ftom the way you are thinking. I thought please enjoy....as much as you can because of treatment....every second with your beautiful husband....then i thought, thats easy for me to say, im not the one going through this. It sounds to me you are still in shock from being given this news.x Cancer doesnt often give you any warning, usually when people are told they have cancer it is a complete shock, it was for me. Sit down with you husband and talk honestly about how you are both feeling. If you cant do that,then find a support service...here we have the Maggies centres, I wouldnt have gotten through my cancer without them.......if you cantake anything from my words take this.......talk to someone and find a way to enjoy this time with your husband, he isnt gone yet and deserves to be able to enjoy this time with you.....find strength from somewhere my love....some people dont get warning,you have beengiven time.xx

Hi Ali,

Staying strong and positive is the best thing you can do for him, but remember to look after yourself too. Come on for somewhere to have a rant if that helps - life is so unfair at times.

The next few weeks will be very hectic for you both. At a similar stage as a patient I was emotionally numb and very matter of fact about things - I guess it was a way of coping with this massive life-changing event. The chances are that he will be feeling many of the same things as you are but keeping his act together is the only way he can face this.

Good luck to you both

Dave

Thank you for your replies. 

We have spent more time together in the last couple of weeks, just enjoying simple pleasures like walking the dog. He is usually at work and not here to do it.

i am making the most of every second . They are all so precious. He has only seen me upset once in the past two weeks and I am staying positive. There are so many treatment possibilities available now and he will receive the best care.

we have talked an awful lot. It must be far worse for him going through this. I just feel so helpless. I certainly haven't written him off yet. We will take it a treatment stage at a time.

It is good to find there is support out there.  

A x