Welcome to Cancer Chat Pdarey although I'm really sorry to hear that your husband's cancer has returned and he is now terminal.

It must be a very tough situation to be in, especially if your husband and son don't want to talk about what is happening, but you can always talk to us. Many members here have found that the lack of discussion seems to be a coping mechanism but I'm sure they as time goes on and when they're ready to do so they will talk to you about how they feel. 

Our members who have been in your position have found it really helpful to talk to others going through similar situations and you can join in on previous discussions by using the 'search forum' option above. Do give it a go as our members are very supportive and will do all they can to help.

Kind Regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator